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17 September 2020 - 01:23 PM

It's gonna be a definite move for me and I figure to be in my brothers place by April 1st.  I was hoping for November by the management company for our apartment building won't give me an early out of my lease.  I'll probably start moving stuff soon however so I can be sure to leave the apartment as I found it to be certain to get my security deposit back.  

In Topic: And how was your day???

03 September 2020 - 05:33 AM

wow the extent of mis-diagnosis is just alarming!!

The problem with Lyme is that it generates so many false test results. Lyme also has so many varied symptoms that doctors in areas where it is not common don't recognize it.  In my own case an MRI showed probable damage {gray areas) from Lyme but I don't recall tying any symptoms to any particular point in time.  However my blood tests were inconclusive just showed possible exposure.  That's one of the reasons I've pursued a pretty aggressive tick control program at the farm keeping grass down in high foot traffic areas, trimming under tree canopy's etc. along with insecticide granules near the house and picnic areas and ground spraying near the dozens of flower gardens my niece and her boyfriend maintain. We of course use all the standard tick exposure precautions but 100% is apparently not possible. 

In Topic: And how was your day???

02 September 2020 - 01:07 PM

Never one to be outdone while the rest of the world was catching Covid-19  my older brother managed to contract Lyme Disease.  He said it was the worst experience of his life and he didn't think he was gonna make it.  He was in severe overall pain head to toe.  Nausea, couldn't eat, even his scalp hurt.  As his symptoms worsened they tested for Lyme and Covid and both came back negative.  After 2 more trips to the ER and the VA his pcp ordered doxycycline i.v. regardless of the test results.  They were on the verge of inducing a coma because his bp was off the scale when the meds started to kick in.  He's back home now 35lbs. lighter than a month and a half ago.  Thank god for my niece Jess being there to take care of him which brings me to a new crossroad in my life.  He has talked to Jess about asking me to move in with him.  It's not a rush deal but she asked me to think about it. It would be huge change as I've enjoyed living by myself.  I love the independence despite having some old age medical issues of my own.  I already have a 3 season camper there at the farm and my own little hideaway clearing in a stand of pines and spend a lot ot time there anyhow.  But I like the option of my own space to retreat to.  Perhaps I'll build a four season cabin in the clearing,lol.... Glad it's no rush for a decision........

In Topic: And how was your day???

26 August 2020 - 02:25 PM


I'm sorry it didn't work out!  Communication is key to any relationship and when the communication isn't there it often means you wouldn't like what they'd have to say if they said it (and they know it)!

I've said it before, but fuck buddies work for me.  I've had a couple of relationships - even played house for a few years.  Just not for me.  I've found I like to do what I want to do when and how I want to do it.  And if I were dating someone, it wouldn't be with anyone who wasn't gay.  Hard core, fucking 6 on the Kinsey scale GAY.  Fuck buddies I don't care who else they're with, as long as they've at least cleaned up before we get together - I'm not investing in an emotional relationship with them so the rest of their life doesn't concern me.  And if they have a kink they want me to massage, they damned well better have the balls to tell me about it once it's evident I'm not going to find it on my own.  You can't blame someone for unfulfilling sex when you haven't told them what you want.


I hope you find what YOU want ... and in the mean time, update that Grindr profile and go out and get some!

I totally relate to your point of view on relationships.  I made terrible choices in the 2 long term relationships I had. I'm too lazy at this stage of my life to put out the effort for a relationship.  I'm good with fuckbuddies, they can fart in their own bed, lol.....

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24 August 2020 - 06:53 AM

I suppose I'll post this here for you guys before I get out of Facebook jail and let everyone else know.....


The boyfriend and I have split up.....this time for good. He's still not ready for a gay relationship (he has been straight all his life, but with attraction to naked men). He's had sexual encounters with men before, but I was his first actual relationship.....he was my second. I'm not going to say much more than he's looking for someone with more experience than me, and I am looking for someone who is actually ready for a commitment, not just someone to do sexual things to me. That's all he wants.....someone to do sexual things to him and what I did evidently wasn't good enough. I'm not all upset about it, and it wasn't really an ugly split, so I am okay. Now if he should actually decide that he wants to be with another man, and wants me, I would possibly reconsider.....with one major stipulation......that we talk to each other. He was good at ignoring my messages when it was convenient for him. I felt like his once every 8 days or so boyfriend. **sigh** I'm not looking for someone else yet unlike him......after we split he had sex with a woman......then he and I met for sex and he didn't tell me about her until after we got together......he insisted that he's single, so I'm like "whatever". I still need time to process our split and think of what I want to do next.

Sounds like he wants his cock and pussy too.  I see a married guy a couple times a year.  We have great sex, don't talk about his wife but I give him head better than his wife and she can't fuck him, lol.  I'm good with that, don't want to wash his socks or do his cooking.....your guy sounds confused or selfish.  I guess it depends on what you want.  I'm too selfish and comfortable in my life to make all the adjustments needed to have someone to cuddle with 24/7. Plus I'm unable to not offer advice on stuff and don't take well to having to listen to someone else's opinion on how I accomplish all the little mundane tasks of everyday life as gay partners are prone to do. I'm happy with men who make me go OOOOOHH!!!, then go away until next time.